Isang malalim na comment for my friend Mackay

its never too late to realize that our pasts were all worth fighting for. the thing is, we've felt pain because of pride; rejecting the need to accept some portions of truths and circumstances. but hey, there's no need to get stuck, dealing with growth gap...we must do some actions, by starting to step our right foot forward :)

about life and love from a simple character

i just like the Quote :D

i just like the quote, that's it :D
wag bigyan ng kulay, masyado na nga sa Hue e hehehe

Pseudo-Relationship - forwarded by DianaJo

Parang Kayo, Pero Hindi.

She is a 24-year old copywriter. He is an architect. They met and became
lovers in college. They broke up last year but remained to be "friends."

They send sweet text messages and he calls her often to make sure she's
okay. They still date. They still have sex.

They don't see anyone else. It is obvious that they still love each
other but when asked about their situation, she doesn't know the real
score. Even her friends are in the dark. "Parang sila, pero hindi."

She works in a telecom. He is r evie wing for the board. They are in the
same barkada. They talk on the phone till 4 am. He gives her chocolates,
flowers and CDs even when there is no occasion. Their friends are
suspecting something. Bakit sila nagsosolo kapag may overnight inuman?
Why does he hold her close on the dance floor? Bakit sila magkaholding
hands lagi?Sila kaya?
"He hasn't admitted anything," she rants. "But I let him hug and kiss
me. Parang kami, pero hindi."

They work together in an ad agency. After office, they would watch
movie, have dinner and stroll at Glorietta. She gave him Harry Potter
books for his birthday in exchange for posing as her boyfriend to make an
ex jealous. They made out during the company outing in Subic and never
talked about it. He said "I love you" once but she wasn't sure if she
heard him correctly because they were both drunk then. But one thing she
is sure of is her feelings for him. She likes him. And she's assuming
that with what he's doing to her and with her, he likes her, too.
There's just one hitch: he has a girlfriend!

She is a 28-year-old virgin. He's a 35-year-old bachelor. Both
mountaineers, they became close during their climbs. After a few dates
in posh restaurants, he brings her to his condo where they would make
out.

They have been doing this for months. She wants to believe that "sila
na" but then she's not really sure about it. "We don't talk about it but
it doesn't really matter," she'd tell her friends. "What's important is
I am enjoying this -- whatever it is."

The "parang kayo, pero hindi" stage. Others call it MU or mutual
understanding. Pseudo-relationships. Pseudo- boyfriends.

Flings. Almost like a relationship, but not quite. It is a phase where
the persons involved are more than friends, but not quite lovers.

Puwedeng may verbal agreement, puwedeng wala. One or both of you may
have admitted your feelings, possible ding hindi. You just let your

gestures do the talking for you. Walang pormal na ligawan na nangyari.
Hindi kayo mag-dyowa.

Pero sa kilos niyo, sa mga sinasabi niyo, parang kayo, pero hindi.

This kind of "relationship" can happen at different stages for different
reasons. It can happen after a break-up. You still love each other, and
you want to be with each other but you broke up for a reason. A nd for
reasons that you alone know, ayaw niyo na muna magkabalikan.

It can also happen before a relationship, iyong pareho kayong
nakikiramdam. Possible din na ayaw niyo munang mag-seryoso kaya
kunwa-kunwarian lang muna.

Testing lang.

Puwede ring hindi puwedeng maging kayo kasi isa sa inyo --usually the
guy -- may ka-relasyon na. Kaya habang hindi pa siya nakikipag-break doon
sa girl (sabi niya makikipag-break siya soon pero di naman niya
ginagawa), wala muna kayong relasyon para nga naman hindi siya
nangagaliwa kasi "hindi naman kayo."

This pseudo-relationship stage, for a time, can be fun. Lalo na kung
naghah ana p ka lang naman ng "kalaro."

Pero huwag ka lang mag-e-expect na may patutunguhan kayo kasi wala
talagang kasiguraduhan.

So bakit ang daming nagse-settle sa ganitong set up ganoong hindi naman
sigurado kung may patutunguhan?

Iba't ibang dahilan. Puwedeng for fun lang.

Puwedeng "buti na iyan kesa w ala" or puwede na iyang "pantawid-gutom."

Meaning, habang wala pa iyong the real thing, doon muna sa
kunwa-kunwarian.

For those who are not in a serious relationship, they would think that
pseudo-relationship is better than no relationship at all. It would be
fun, if all you are after for is that "kilig"
feeling.

Aminado naman ako na once upon a time, may mga pseudo-relationships din
ako. No commitments involved. For the simplest reason that they couldn't
commit, because they were either committed to someone else, or that they
weren't ready to commit.

My rationalization, "okay na iyun, kesa wala."

Ang habol ko lang naman, iyong kilig feeling. Iyong merong nagtatanong
kung

kumusta araw ko. Iyong merong ka-cuddle sa beach outing. Iyong kapag
tumunog ang cel lphone, mapapangiti na ako dahil alam kong galing sa
kanya ang message. Iyong merong laging kasama. Habang wala pa ang the
real thing, puwede na itong pagtiyagaan.

But then I learned that although it was only a pseudo-relationship, the
emotions were real. And usually, in this kind of set up, ang babae lagi
ang lugi.

Una, you can't ask him to commit. Since it's not really a relationship,
you

can't demand commitment from your partner. Ano ba kayo? May K ka nga ba
magpasundo ng hatinggabi? You will always be uncertain about your role
in his life. You can't expect him to be always there with you. And if
you feel jealous of the other girls, you just have to keep it to
yourself.

Ano ka ba niya para magselos?

Pangalawa, what if you fall deeply in love with him?
You can't be sure if he feels the same way. Baka nag-a-assume ka lang na
mahal ka rin niya.

Even if you are dying to tell him you love him, you can't.
Because you're not sure if he'll like it. Baka mapahiya ka lang.

This stage will always make you wonder where you are in the
relationship.

Or if there is a relationship at all.

Pangatlo, what if you become attached too much?

What if you have invested all your emotions and this man hasn't?

What if you remain faithful to him, not entertaining other guys, only to
find out that he is seeing other girls?

Isa pang downside ng pseudo-relationships, it is fleeting. When a
disagreement sets in, or when one of you gets cold, then that would be
the end of it. Unlike in a serious relationship, hindi mo alam kung saan
ka lulugar sa isang pseudo-relationship. Wala kang pinanghahawakan.

Kasi sa pseudo-relationship, there is no "us." Meron lang "you and me,"
hindi "us."

Buti s ana kung pseudo-pain din lang ang marar ana san mo. Kaso, hindi eh.
Real pain. And usually, kahit tapos na ang pseudo- relationship, hindi
mo maiwasan umasang one day, may karugtong pa rin iyun. And you will be
miserable, hoping to bring back what you used to have, only to find out
eventually that the guy is in another pseudo-relationship with somebody
else.

Ang h irap, ano? You agreed to this kind of set up for fun and then
you'd end up hurting yourself in the process.

Pero puwede naman maiwasan ang pain eh.
Puwede naman na hindi mo muna isipin ang future and just enjoy the
feeling, without thinking of the consequences.

But if you are certain that you are going to hurt yourself in the
process, kailangan mo mamili. You can be happy and live the moment
without worrying what would happen next. Or you can stop settling with
pseudo-relationships and wait for the real thing.

When I was younger and in a pseudo-relationship with an unavailable guy,
a friend told me, "Sige, kung ayaw mong magpapigil, bahala ka.

Magpakasaya ka.

Pero huwag kang iiyak-iyak pagkatapos, dahil tatadyakan kita."

Ang bottom line lang naman, kung magpapasaya sa iyo, gawin mo.

Ihanda mo lang ang sarili mo sa consequence. Dahil ang "parang kayo pero
hindi" stage ay bihirang nagiging totoo. Usually, hanggang doon lang
siya ...

almost, but not quite.

“When you find peace within yourself, you become the kind of person who can live at peace with others.”

Kailangan mo LANG ako

Kailangan mo lang ako..
kapag wala kang madukot sa bulsa at kailangan mo ng Instant pera
Kailangan mo lang ako..
kapag ikaw ay walang makatabi sa sinehan at kailangan mo ng kayakap pang-alis lamig sa katawan
Kailangan mo lang ako..
kapag gusto mong magkape at walang magsisindi ng sigarilyo para sayo
Kailangan mo lang ako..
kapag isang Sabadong kayganda ay trip mong maglamyerda sa Tagaytay at wala kang kausap habang binabagtas mo ang Sta. Rosa


...to be continued..

Valentine's Day at its Finest

Valentine’s Day, what’s so special about this day? Aside from the fact that we give importance to St. Valentine, why do most of us celebrate this day as if it’s the first Christmas of the year?

I truly do not understand. It is not because I am such a boring individual nor against love and romance, I just don’t understand.

Sa pagputok ng araw ng mga Puso isang realisasyon ang aking nasaksihan. Ibat ibang paraan pala talaga ang puwede mong gawin para ipagsaya ang araw ng Pagibig.

Tsk! Akalain mo ba na mabisang paraan ang pagtunghay mo sa isang horror movie sa inyong portable dvd player habang ang boypren mo ay abala sa pagmamaneho. Magkunwari ka lang takot, instant jackpot ka na sa tsansing.hahahaha!

Syempre mawawala ba ang pagdeliver ng mga bulaklak sa kanya kanyang istasyon ng mundo mong ginagalawan? Mapabahay, opisina, iskul at hospital mong kinalulugaran.

At ang hindi na kagulat gulat ay ang mahabang pila sa pagpasok sa:

Sinehan

Motel

Hotel

Concert halls

Valet parking

Mall

Coffee shops

Romantic resto and bars

At syempre pa ang mga publikong kakalsadahan

Ultimo gas station daw ay di mabilang ang sasakyan?

Hay, at ano nga bang kabuluhan pag nag suot ka ng Pula habang ang mga iba ay abala sa paggupit,pagsabit at pagdisenyo ng mga korteng puso at kupidong gawa sa styro, at papel?

Bukod sa

Bakit nga ba?

Ano nga ba meron sa Valentine’s? ewan, ang alam ko lang araw yun bago ang a-kinse, sweldo day.

My latest self-made quote

And So It Is Being Told,


"Nobody deserves better than everyone else,
cos we all have our own holes."



-tin-

Hate Hookups!

Im a little discriminative, boastful, diminishing imbecile to acknowledgement
Almost convincing myself,
but not quite,
I still see what Im looking for.
not who I have to trust myself with,


Bad me.. bad trip no?!

worries..

I worry not to live, alone.
I worry not to be on my own




Yet I have been worrying of,
not contributing Happiness to where I truly belong.

I....oh!

I cant..

I cant sleep..

I hate it whenever I see Ma reading biblical summaries
It makes me feel sad...
Shiver is the right word and I get ugly-awful-goosebumps

A forwarded e-mail broke me into tears,
It made me start to feel guilty.
That as I grow old in life,
It's not just about being happy, alone.
It's not just about worrying who you will be ending up with,
It's not just about spending and taking your time enjoying leisure,

It is but a fact that you have to be MORE responsible in taking care of your parents.
Be more considerate, praying that they may have a longer time to live,
Than usual.

God, Im so scared.

Never Like This

I was never like this..
a selfish individual
a distinctive flesh
a discriminative impaired

But everytime this happening occurs,
my false reason re-appears..
"at the wrong time.."
always an idealistic shallow thinker.

and yes, todate i must admit,
what i see is what im looking for.


i really have to grow up more..